Radical CUNTS

Radical College Undergraduates Not Tolerating Sexism is a Columbia/Barnard student group that aims to fight sexist oppression from an intersectional perspective. This means that we understand that issues of gender cannot be understood without an analysis of the way gender intersects with race, class, sexuality, religion, and all other forms of identity. Our aim is to provide a space in which we can discuss these issues and mobilize around them.

We are officially affiliated with the IRC (Intercultural Resource Center), which is run under the umbrella of the OMA (Office of Multicultural Affairs).
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ethiopienne:

SURVIVORS. DO. NOT. NEED. YOUR. INPUT.

[TW: sexual assault, domestic violence]

I cannot tell you how many times I’ve found the courage to speak about what happened to me when I was younger only to hear “…you know you should’ve reported that, right?” or “so you didn’t say anything? what’s wrong with you?” or “well maybe if you had done X or Y or Z he’d be in jail right now and you wouldn’t even be talking about it.”

Do you not realize how vile it is to criticize someone for the way they respond to one of the most heinous events they’ll ever live through? Do you not understand that most survivors (and most people period) already blame the survivors for what happened to them? Do you not understand that policing how they respond to an unwarranted act of physical, mental, psychological, emotional violence does nothing but further encroach upon the survivor’s rights?

It is up to that person—and that person alone—to decide how to go about healing. And if that means therapy, so be it. If that means cussing out the perpetrator on their Facebook wall, so be it. If it means collaborating with the perpetrator on a song, then SO. FUCKING. BE. IT.

Maybe that’s not the path you think you would have chosen, but unless you are that particular survivor, you will never know for a fact what you would have done because you will never be in that same position.

Until it is your body that has been violated, your psyche that has been damaged, you have absolutely no place to speak on what victims/survivors should do in response to the events that change their lives forever.

It is rude, arrogant, self-serving, patronizing, condescending, and just plain wrong. 

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Being triggered does not mean “being upset” or “being offended” or “being angry,” or any other euphemism people who roll their eyes long-sufferingly in the direction of trigger warnings tend to imagine it to mean. Being triggered has a very specific meaning that relates to evoking a physical and/or emotional response to a survived trauma. To say, “I was triggered” is not to say, “I got my delicate fee-fees hurt.” It is to say, “I had a significantly mood-altering experience of anxiety.” Someone who is triggered may experience anything from a brief moment of dizziness, to a shortness of breath and a racing pulse, to a full-blown panic attack. A survivor of sexual violence who experiences a trigger is experiencing the same thing as a soldier who experiences a trigger, potentially even including flashbacks. Like many soldiers who return from war, many survivors of sexual violence are left with post-traumatic stress disorder. Unlike soldiers, however, they are not likely to receive much sympathy, or benefit from attempts to understand, when they are triggered. Instead, triggered survivors of sexual violence are dismissed as oversensitive, as hysterics, as humorless, as weak. Well. Trivializing the concerns of a person whose traumatic experience of sexual violence has been triggered is a legitimate response. But it’s not a very kind or decent one. I will never understand why anyone wants to be the total jerk who evokes someone’s memories of being assaulted by blindsiding hir with a rape joke (or image, or metaphor, or whatever), in the guise of “humor.” No “joke” is worth triggering someone. Not if you understand what triggering someone really means.

projectunbreakable:

I photographed this man yesterday. He was the first male I’ve ever gotten to photograph for this project; all the other men have been submissions. Men are slowly stepping forward for this. People are getting braver - showing their faces more, sharing more, and simply even participating. I received piles of emails a day. It’s been incredible to watch this project grow in the media, but that’s nothing in comparison to watching people grow from this project.

Not sure what Project Unbreakable is? Click here.

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Want to be apart of Project Unbreakable? Email us at projectunbreakable@gmail.com

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sexpositive:

I wrote this presentation for an internship at a Sexual Assault Counseling Center, and adapted it for a Take Back the Night event that I was a part of in college. If you’d like the actual presentation, let me know and I’d be happy to send it along!

The LGBT Community and Sexual Assault

Sexual Assault Awareness is important to the LGBT community because sexual assault and domestic violence are important, and often time silent, problems in the LGBTQ community. Being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender does not exclude you from sexual assault and domestic violence.

Definition of Sexual Assault and Rape

Sexual assault is any sexual contact that is against a person’s will or without consent. This includes situations where force, violence or weapons are used as well as situations where the victim is too intoxicated or scared to give consent.

Rape is defined as penetration against a person’s will or without consent and chiefly by force or deception. The rapist can be a man or a woman, and the victim can be a man or a woman as well.

Rape is About Power

Myth: Only gay men sexually assault other men.

Reality: Most men who sexually assault other men identify themselves as heterosexual. This fact helps to highlight another reality — that sexual assault is about violence, anger and control over another person, not lust or sexual attraction.

Consent

Consent is an agreement that two people must make if they want to have sex. The issue of consent can be a complicated and ambiguous area that needs to be addressed with clear, open and honest communication.

  • Both partners needs to be fully conscious and aware.
  • Both partners are equally free to act.
  • Both partners should clearly communicate their willingness and permission.
  • Both partners are positive and sincere in their desires.

Communication and Consent

  • Keep in mind that communicating about sex is a skill that takes practice.
  • Remember that better communication means better sex.
  • Be honest and open about feeling nervous to talk about sex with your partner.
  • Ask your partner about his/her boundaries and desires first.
  • Don’t wait until you are already in the action. Plan ahead and bring it up at a different time.

Same Sex Sexual Assault

LGBT victims are even less likely than straight survivors to report the assault. There is often a tendency to blame their victimization on their sexual orientation or gender orientation.

Why It’s Hard to Seek Support After Sexual Assault

  • Reporting is deterred by lack of competent “queer-friendly” helpers who are sensitive to same-sex assault or violence.
  • There could be a reporting process which “outs” the survivor, or may “out” the community.

Woman to Woman Assault

  • Survivors often experience a sense of betrayal and disbelief that a woman could assault another woman.
  • Woman-to-woman assaults are often trivialized or viewed as harmless “cat fights” with no real victim and no injury. This is an inaccurate misconception.
  • Woman-to-woman assaults are rarely perpetrated by strangers, or by heterosexual women.
  • Although there is typically no concern for pregnancy, there is the possibility of internal injuries and sexually transmitted infections.

Man to Man Assault

  • Men hesitate to report a sexual assault due to fears of blame, disbelief or intolerance by police or medical personnel.
  • The most common male-to-male assault is the rape of a man who is perceived to be gay by a heterosexual man.
  • As assault of a heterosexual man sometimes leads him to question his sexual orientation. Male-to-male assaults also occur between gay men.
  • Male victims often react with more overt anger than women do.

Sexual Assault Statistics and Facts

  • 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will have been assaulted by age 18, regardless of sexual orientation.
  • 60% of male rapes were perpetrated by their partners.
  • 600,000 rapes are reported to the police in the US each year.
  • An estimated 6,000,000 rapes occur each year.
  • 31% of lesbians and 12% of gay men have been sexually assaulted. (Psychological Reports, 1990)
  • Victims or sexual assault are 26 more times likely to abuse drugs.
  • LGBT people are more likely than heterosexual individuals to be sexually assaulted by strangers. This would be motivated by fear and hatred of homosexuality.

It is NEVER the Survivor’s Fault

Even if…

  • Your attacker was an acquaintance, date, friend or partner.
  • You have been sexually intimate with that person or others before.
  • You were drinking or using drugs.
  • You froze and did not or could not say “no”, or were unable to fight back physically.

How to Help a Survivor

  • Listen, don’t judge. Just try to understand the survivor’s feelings.
  • Offer to have them stay with you, or you with them.
  • Give comfort and support.
  • Encourage your friend to seek professional help.
  • Accept the person’s choices about what to do regarding the assault.
  • Be patient.

Help and Support Are Available

  • The 24 HR National Sexual Assault Hotline by RAINN: 800-656-HOPE (4673)
  • Gay & Lesbian National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564
  • National Domestic Violence Helpline: 1-800-799-7233
  • La red (ending abuse in same-sex relationships): 617-742-4911
  • National Gay and Lesbian Youth Hotline, 1-800-347-TEEN
  • Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender (GLBT) Youth Support Line
: 800-850-8078
  • The Trevor Helpline: 866-4-U-TREVOR
  • Rainbow Youth Hotline: 877-LGBT-YTH (1-877-542-8984)

Some suggestions on “What to do if…you or a friend are sexually assaulted”

erinxvx:

DIY guide 4IMG by shine_so_cold on Flickr.

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ronronnement:

“Chances are, this morning, that you’ve seen the new Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s National Center for Injury Prevention and Control statistics on sexual violence and domestic violence. Most notably, you’ve probably seen the new statistic that almost 1 in 5 women have experienced rape in their lifetimes.

That’s a terrifying statistic, though not a surprising one to those of us who have been involved in sexual violence work for some time. In light of this undeniably already awful news, it may seem cruel to point out that the reality is even worse than it initially appears from this soundbite. But I also think it’s necessary.”

letstalkaboutrape:

I posted last week asking people if they knew of some good resources for male victims of sexual assault. Here is the list people came up with:

www.malesurvivor.org

www.violenceunsilenced.com

www.rainn.org

www.pandys.org

www.1in6.org

www.soulspeakout.org

http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/

Thanks everyone!

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