Teju Cole on the “#firstworldproblems” meme, in a series of tweets compiled by Alexis Madrigal (via chaplinnn)
This is the sort of thing I was referring to the other day!
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Teju Cole on the “#firstworldproblems” meme, in a series of tweets compiled by Alexis Madrigal (via chaplinnn)
This is the sort of thing I was referring to the other day!
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Trigger Warning: ableism, abuse, rape culture.I wrote this article because a recent episode of Glee included terrible messages about how people with mental health conditions exist within their relationships, especially romantic relationships. This is a topic that’s really close to my persynal experience, so I felt I needed to write about it to prevent my head from exploding.
Whether there is a sexism problem within the atheist community is really not up for debate. People affected by it have been telling you and telling you and telling you there is a problem. So when you say, “Sexism is not a problem for/by/about atheists,” those of us who have direct experience with sexism hear, “I like things fine the way they are and thus would rather spend my time antagonizing the people who say they’re hurt than the people causing the pain.” And we conclude that you are awful.
Finally, if your solution to sexist abuse on the internet is, “Just don’t let anyone know your gender, or see a picture of you, or ever mention where you live” (as one of the first commenters on Watson’s post suggested), you are so fucking awful, I can’t even. It’s not just that you’re putting all the onus on the targets of hatred to change so that bullies won’t have to, or that you’re conveniently ignoring situations, in almost 20fucking12, where a woman might want to have her picture and contact info on the internet for, I dunno, business reasons? For example? And it’s not even that you’re representing yourself as someone who’s clearly more internet-savvy than the lady blogger in question, but you apparently don’t realize that a highly motivated person can pretty easily discover the identity behind a pseudonym. No, it’s that you’re arguing that abuse of women online would solve itself if only women disappeared from the internet.
“You Are Awful, Too,” Kate Harding
Click through to read the whole thing; it’s great.
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Ryan Gosling, in a letter protesting the NC-17 rating of ‘Blue Valentine’. The rating was based on one consensual sex scene, in which he goes down on Michelle Williams. (via goodgirls-like-to-sin)
RYAN GOSLING REALLY IS A FEMINIST!
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reblogging for the pictures and on-point commentary
I see a lot of Tumblr posts of girls in their short shorts and singlets that only cover up half their torso, but I don’t think I have seen a Fashion post about classy, stylish or spunky, conservatively-presented girls, most especially Muslim girls. Mad props for them for showing sexy, classy and stylish without showing too much skin!
Here goes! Enjoy!
aside from the vaguely slutshamey commentary at the beginning, I LOVE THIS POST
yes, me too. (the lolita one aaaaah)
THIS for the bolded commentary.
And YES YES YES for the photographs.
(bolded commentary and the photographs)
As a hijab-wearing Muslimah, I did not previously reblog this because I HATE the intro commentary.
It is slut-shaming. It is classist (“classy” as used to describe upper-class and the alternative to “ghetto”/”trashy”). It is also exoticizing when it refers to hijabis as “sexy” and there are real repercussions for us when we are exoticized like that.
In addition to the commentary problems, the fact that it only shows one remotely plump-like hijabi photo is really problematic too. The reason that I and some friends began the Phat Hijabis Tumblr was to show that Muslimahs come in all shapes and sizes. Fat hijabis have style and spunk and all that too.
And yet one more addition, is that when we talk about Muslimahs being fashionable and such, we imply that there is something wrong with more traditional styles and forms of covering. And that is just as policing, and ultimately tends to come from a very disgusting place that others those of us who do not feel compelled to be fashionable or to assimilate.
And to the OP saying they haven’t seen fashion posts showing hijabi or modestly dressed (and let’s be real, “modest” is pretty open to interpretation) women, all I can say is that is about who you choose to follow. There are numerous fashion blogs on Tumblr specifically for hijabis. These are just a few of them:
I love all of these pictures. I’m not knocking the idea of showing covered Muslimahs being stylish. I’m concerned with, and offended by, the manner and implications chosen to express it.
i need you to read this:
http://www.amptoons.com/blog/files/mcintosh.html
and these:
http://super-eklectic1.tumblr.com/post/11807662655/anedumacation-weexist-weresist-as
http://stfuracists.tumblr.com/post/11654821326/charminglymisanthropic-i-will-never-ever-ever
http://super-eklectic1.tumblr.com/post/10788285210/a-list-of-tacit-gains-as-a-result-of-white-privilege
http://linzyxxxxx.tumblr.com/post/10774723366/so-whereas-nigger-was-and-is-a-term-used-by
http://super-eklectic1.tumblr.com/post/13051741291/daisyduke1018-my-blu-tinted-glasses
http://super-eklectic1.tumblr.com/post/13052337708/daisyduke1018-my-blu-tinted-glasses
http://super-eklectic1.tumblr.com/post/13005565568/dear-white-people-of-the-all-white-united-world
http://super-eklectic1.tumblr.com/post/11760552773/on-white-guilt
http://super-eklectic1.tumblr.com/post/11153050238/not-being-racist-is-not-some-default-starting
http://super-eklectic1.tumblr.com/post/11759067464/dumbthingswhitepplsay-dumb-things-white-people
http://academic.udayton.edu/race/01race/whiteness07.htm
go here:
http://super-eklectic1.tumblr.com/post/13057853527/are-whites-racially-oppressed
http://wtfwhiteprivilege.tumblr.com/
and watch this:
http://super-eklectic1.tumblr.com/post/12315556788/mirrors-of-privilege-making-whiteness-visible
http://super-eklectic1.tumblr.com/post/13089885979/andallislove-moneiri-witchsistah
and after all of that you still refuse to accept the truth or you simply refuse to look at any of these then go here:
http://super-eklectic1.tumblr.com/post/12231963068/goddamazon-esoterica-do-you-need-to-get-on-the
racism 101
thanks for making this, super-eklectic1
I don’t wanna hear a SINGLE white person demanding to be educated now. This shit is here, on tumblr, under the RACISM 101 tag. If your ass can’t be bothered to take the time to check this shit out, you can’t be mad that your ass is being called racist.
Affection is only one ingredient of love. To truly love we must learn to mix various ingredients—care, affection, recognition, respect, commitment, and trust, as well as honest and open communication. […]
Most of us learn to think of love as a feeling. When we feel deeply drawn to someone, we cathect with them; that is, we invest feelings or emotion in them. That process of investment wherein a loved one becomes important to us is called “cathexis.” In his book* [M. Scott] Peck rightly emphasizes that most of us “confuse cathecting with loving.” We all know how often individuals feeling connected to someone through the process of cathecting insist that they love the other person even if they are hurting or neglecting them. Since their feeling is that of cathexis, they insist what they feel is love.
When we understand love as the will to nurture our own and another’s spiritual growth, it becomes clear that we cannot claim to love if we are hurtful and abusive. Love and abuse can not coexist. Abuse and neglect are, by definition, the opposite of nurturance and care.
” —bell hooks - all about love, 2000Mia Mingus, Moving Toward the Ugly: A Politic Beyond Desirability (via classycoochie)
This is one of my fav quotes from her speech.
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Because this is will always be relevant.
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Reading the power of the terms “fit” and “fit for” throughout the history of last two millenia or so is a great way to assess the truth of this statement. This is a really productive way to study dis/ability: thinking about the proliferation of synonyms for “able” and how they serve as wedges of legitimized marginalization. Thanks, great post.
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WE SHOULD REMEMBER THIS MORE OFTEN:
- That it’s important to take good care of your body.
- That our body does a lot for us, even though we’ve bashed it over and over and over.
- That exercise is meant to be enjoyed, so you only practice the physical activities that are fun and truly make you feel good.
- That you’ll still have days where you probably hate your body and your life. And that’s OK.
- That your negative thoughts are not actions. So just because you feel bad about your body and want to restrict your food or over-exercise or miss that get-together doesn’t mean you will. It’s just a thought. You can choose to act on it or not.
- That a positive body image means more than liking your thighs, butt and belly. That it encompasses not just taking good care of yourself but also honoring your body, respecting your boundaries and seeing doctors for regular appointments and when you’re sick.
- That sleep does a mind and body good!
- That you always have time to take care of yourself.
- That you’re more than a few body parts. You’re an entire, amazing package.
- That you’re worthy and deserving of respect at any size, shape or weight.
- That weight loss isn’t a magical elixir for everything that’s wrong with your life.
- That ads and magazines are preposterously Photoshopped so that the actual actresses and models don’t even look like that. That’s why they have to “train” so hard for their fashion shows. (And by train hard, I mean engage in super unhealthy habits.)
- That eating is flexible and enjoyable.
- That you can wear whatever the heck you like, not just supposedly slimming black clothes or bulky cardigans and sweatshirts.
- That you don’t have to wait to lose weight to pursue your dreams. You can. do. it. right. now. (And I hope you will.)
- That people who make mean remarks about your body are jerks, and their comments are more about them than you.
- That just because everyone around you is dieting doesn’t mean it’s the healthiest thing to do. (If everyone was jumping off a cliff…just kidding.)
- That your feelings are not scary or to be avoided at all costs. Instead, they provide you with valuable information about your needs and the actions you might want to take.
- That having a positive body image is a process. Day by day. It might seem oh-so impossible at first but if you start small, it’ll improve.
- That you deserve to love your body at any size, shape or weight!
This list is surprisingly helpful. I look forward to implementing some of these ideas when things get crazy. Here’s my personal favorite:
Write a worry-list
Stress makes us more vulnerable, and worry can be a nasty side-effect of a busy period. If you find yourself worrying a lot, it’s a good idea to write a daily worry-list. Whenever you catch a worrying thought, write it down and save it for later. Spend 5 minutes in the morning and 5-minutes in the evening worrying about whatever you put on your list. It may sound simple, but postponing your worry will actually make it less worrying whenever you sit down and actually think about it in peace and quiet.
while we’re on the subject I might as well pass this link along. The Feminist Majority Foundation has a job board that is regularly updated with job listings…
I had a really great pride this year, but I was also troubled by comments I heard over the last week from a lot of people in both the mainstream and radical queer communities. I want to say a few things about cissexism, specifically towards trans women and other MTF spectrum folks.
1) Gay sex does not require genital symmetry.
Most people in the community realize that not all women have the same sex organs, but it seems that a lot of people have a harder time making the leap to realize that you can have super gay sex with someone who has different junk than you. If you think otherwise, you are probably alienating people in your community, not to mention potentially missing out on some hot queer sex!
2) Gay sex does not mean non-potentially-reproductive sex (see point #1).
A lot of people like to claim the contrary… things like, “dykes never have to worry about getting pregnant” and other such nonsense. Claiming that all gay sex is non-reproductive erases the experiences of a lot of trans people and their lovers, and also makes it harder to talk about birth control and safer sex.
3) Don’t call different types of genitals disgusting.
This seems to be a disturbingly common trend in the queer community and has come up several times this week. A lot of people have a hard enough time trying to feel good and confident in their bodies - and welcome in their queer community - without having to hear how disgusting other people think their junk is. This goes for all aspects of peoples’ bodies.
Basically, we all need to have a little sit down and think about the different body/gender combinations that exist in our community and how the things we say and do affect the people around us!
Meryl Streep, on being told that she often plays “strong-minded women”
WHO LOVES MERYL?
MEMEMEMEMEMEMEMEEEE
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- Commenter on Occupy Seattle Online Events (via rooftopsedge
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It’s a rough draft. Don’t mock.
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DeTongued Discursive Discourses.
Third_World Woman entered the chat room.
Western_feminist says: hi! Welcome!
Third_World Woman says:
Western_Feminist shares a file with Third_World Woman.
File Sent. Wisdom And Multiethnic practices activated.
Western_Feminist says: What do you think T_W Woman? I think the root of all oppression lies in systemic gender oppression.
Third_World Woman says:
Western_Feminist says: I can’t hear-see-feel it. Wait, I’ll get help.
Third_World_Nationalist entered the chat room.
Third_World_Nationalist says: Thank you Western_Feminist. So what is the problem here?
Western_Feminist says: I can’t hear Third_World Woman. Can you help me?
Third_World Woman leaves a limb.
Third_World_Nationalist says: I don’t see any thing either. I believe root of all oppression lies in systemic colonial discourse.
Third_World_Nationalist shares a file with Third_World Woman.
File sent. Traditionalism and Anti-Colonial Rhetoric Activated.
Third_World Woman says:
Third_World Woman says:
Western_Feminist says: I still can’t hear anything. What do we do Third_World_Nationalist? Can you try to interpret something?
Third_World Woman leaves an eye.
Religious_Capitalist enters the room.
Religious_Capitalist takes the eye and leaves the room.
Western_Feminist says: I think the root of all oppression lies in systemic gender and religious oppression.
Western_Feminist shares a file with Third_World_Nationalist.
File sent. Re-negotiation of Third_World Woman activated.
Third_World Woman leaves her voice.
Third_World Woman has left the room.
“Men-ups!” is a humorous project by photographer Rion Sabean featuring men doing pin-up-style poses. It’s interesting how much more absurd some poses instantly look when they’re being done by men.
The creator of these is a girl at my school, USF! Woot!
why is this so great
Is that a real question or a rhetorical one? If its real I can explain why it is so amusing.
Please stop acting like sexist jerks.
Now, before you protest that telling women to smile isn’t sexist, stop and think back to the last time you saw a man you’d never met and said any of the following to him:
- Why so down? Smile!
- Life’s too short! Smile while you can!
- You need to smile more.1
- You’d be hotter if you were smiling.
- A handsome guy like you shouldn’t look so sad.
A real smile is a spontaneous physical expression of an emotion. Granted, there are some people who try to avoid expressing even the “good” emotions, but most people are pretty comfortable with spontaneous displays of happiness, joy, gratitude, and so on. Further, studies have also shown that inflicting “positive thinking”.
When you tell someone who is not smiling that they should be smiling, you are essentially saying one (or more) of the following:
- You should be having different emotions than you are having
- You should feign an emotion you are not having
- You should do something with your body because I think you should
- My desire to see you smiling is more important than whatever you might be feeling or thinking
These are the questions we grapple with as Radical CUNTS
I have mixed emotions.
On the one hand, it lets me know I’m doing something right. Any time you stand up for the rights and personhood of those who are not white, cis-gendered, heterosexual, able-bodied, affluent males, people will say you’re crazy.
Or that you’re “making things about [racism, classism, cissexism, heterosexism, ableism, etc.]” when really that’s not what the issue is and you, silly little marginalized person with a lifetime of experience dealing with [-ism] are obviously just misinterpreting the situation.
But on the other hand, it really bothers me.
What is so radical about believing that people shouldn’t have to sacrifice parts of their identity in order to lead “healthy” lives?
What is so militant about believing that women of color deserve to be told they are as beautiful, as deserving, as special, as worthy of praise, as capable, as white women? What is so asinine about wishing that Black women weren’t always relegated to the bottom of the barrel?
What is so ludicrous about thinking that all women shouldn’t have to measure their worth by (how others determine) their beauty (based on Eurocentric colonialist standards)?
What is so ridiculous about wishing that children of color could grow up learning things about their history that did not revolve solely around slavery?
What is so naive about thinking maybe—just maybe—people could separate sex and gender?
What is so bizarre about the idea that freedom of religion does not just apply to Christians?
What is so “bohemian” about interrogating an economic system in which farmers are paid to dispose of their crops while countless people starve to death each second?
What is so avant garde about the idea that sex ought to be enjoyable for all parties involved—and not just those with penises? What is so “new age” about the idea that people should be taught what and where the clitoris is? What is so taboo about saying the word “clitoris”?
Someone, please tell me. Tell me how and why caring about people whom society screws over is radical. Tell me why hating oppression is militant. I’ll wait.
Womanist Musings’s post “A Forced Eugenics Survivor Speaks Her Truth”
The entire thing is an incredible and powerful read. I think of it any and every time I hear about the NC sterilization shit.
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srsly. it’s hard for me to believe that someone can be an active advocate or believer in birth control without understanding at least some of the violent and fucked up history of eugenics. this is the finest example of needing to acknowledge and work with intersectionality that i have seen so far.
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This is why I get so fucking pissed when people try to gloss over Margaret Sanger’s racist ass manifesto letter. The bitch WANTED black genocide and tried to use black ministers to do so. She WANTED forced sterilization of black and latino women. DO. NOT. DENY. THIS.
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“Chances are, this morning, that you’ve seen the new Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s National Center for Injury Prevention and Control statistics on sexual violence and domestic violence. Most notably, you’ve probably seen the new statistic that almost 1 in 5 women have experienced rape in their lifetimes.
That’s a terrifying statistic, though not a surprising one to those of us who have been involved in sexual violence work for some time. In light of this undeniably already awful news, it may seem cruel to point out that the reality is even worse than it initially appears from this soundbite. But I also think it’s necessary.”
Conservatives are fond of willfully ignorant statements like: Our tax dollars shouldn’t go to abortion, so Planned Parenthood should have its funding stripped. We all know this is a lie. The information to debunk this claim is widely and readily available. Aside from the three percent of PP’s budget that goes to abortion care (and that 3% is privately funded, duh), PP’s wide range of health care services include:
Women’s Health
Includes:
- birth control
- emergency contraception
- checkups for reproductive and sexual health problems
- gynecological exams
- pregnancy tests and pre-natal care
- routine physical exams
Men’s Health
Includes:
- checkups for reproductive or sexual health problems
- colon cancer screening
- erectile dysfunction services, including education, exams, treatment, and referral
- jock itch exam and treatment
- male infertility screening and referral
- premature ejaculation services, including education, exams, treatment, and referral
- routine physical exams
- testicular cancer screenings
- prostate cancer screenings
- urinary tract infections testing and treatment
- vasectomy
General Health Care
Includes:
- anemia testing
- cholesterol screening
- diabetes screening
- physical exams, including for employment and sports
- flu vaccines
- help with quitting smoking
- high blood pressure screening
- tetanus vaccines
- thyroid screening
- STD testing, treatment, and vaccines
So conservatives: tell me again why Planned Parenthood’s funding should be eliminated?
dr—grumbles, here. (via bitterbuffalo)
Bless this post
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Katie West (via grrrlstudies)
This might be the best quote I’ve ever seen.
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i hate stuff like this with a passion because it completely ignores all societal factors and deeply misogynistic views that brainwash everyone into believing certain things - in this case, that people perceived as women should be hairless. it portrays these choices as completely equal, when they are anything but. when not every porn star is waxed to an inch of their life, when men don’t balk at the idea of eating (or even fucking!) hairy pussy, when 99.9999999% of society is telling you, from the day you are born, that feminine = hairless, THEN i will respect this quote.
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When I don’t have almost every fucking internet feminist out there getting all up in my grill because I choose to trim my triangle and shave my ass hair, around my junk, and my legs and pits then I’ll stop needing to see quotes like this. Yup, I shave parts of my junk and my pits are hairless. There’s no possible way I could have chosen this for myself. Nope, must just be brainwashed. Silly me for thinking I understand my own choices. I thought I was just shaving because I like the texture of my leg skin and because I don’t like how some of my pubes catch in my underpants occasionally. Damn, I was wrong! I’m clearly only doing it because porn.
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I fucking hate it when people say shit like the second commentary above. As if doing anything that traditionally fits a stereotype of femininity—makeup, shaving, stay at home mothers, etc.—means you’re brainlessly doing what patriarchy tells you to do. Fuck you. As long as I know I have a choice, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with me taking all the hair off my ladyspace.
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― Ursula K. Le Guin (via oh-sayitaintso)
Hey fellow Radical CUNTS, any recommended reading for winter break?